There are a few things in life that will make or break you.  One of them is relationships.

Jim Rohn puts it like this: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Now, stop. And think about that.

I am the average of the five people I spend the most time with.

You might sense a multitude of questions encroaching on you now… Who do I spend the most time with? Why do I spend time with them, specifically? Is that who I want to be? Surely it can’t be that simple? I am my own person. Simply spending time with a person doesn’t alter my destiny or whether I become true to the I Am in me?

That begs the question. If time is the stuff life is made of, as Benjamin Franklin put it, then who you share your time with will mould the life you live.

In my experience and from the stories of those that have gone before me, the fastest way to change your trajectory in life is to rub shoulders regularly with those a few steps ahead of you. They inspire us with their thinking. These thoughts influence our attitude. Their perspective becomes our vision.

When we don’t know who the I Am inside of us is, we are not judicious in our choice of company. Have you considered how your choice of spouse would affect your destiny and whether you become all that you really are? Have you ever considered that you will have an effect on whether your spouse becomes all that they truly are?

If you have been through a divorce like me, these questions might make perfect sense. If I had known who I was back then I would have made different decisions. Not because there was something wrong with the other person. I simply would have had a clearer understanding of where I was going, who I was and who I was not. Each and every person has a beautiful and unique I Am inside, a radiant destiny and a specific purpose. If these are not aligned then the outcome might not be in the best interest of the parties involved. Either one or both will never reach their sweet spot or there will be a constant tugging at the helm of the ship.

I encourage you to be who you really are and there by allow the people in your life to follow suite and become all that they were created to be. Marianne Williamson put it like this: “You playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you… As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.”

We can propel and release the people nearest us into their destiny by first allowing ourselves to do it. How amazing would it be to live with someone who has found their sweet spot? When we get to a place where we encourage others to find out who they really are, who they were destined to be, we will create a family, a life, a community and society in which depression and hopelessness loses its hold on us. Hope and happiness will pave the way for a better future. What a wonderful thought.